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donotcallmeashley said: I’m so sick of hearing from guys “well I’ve never been with someone who didn’t cum” UM YEAH IM SURE
The best I’ve ever heard was “I know they had orgasms, tho, because they quivered.”
I was like “The vagina is LITERALLY a muscle. We can flex that shit.”
Men tend to think if they thrust for 30 minutes, that’ll mean you’ll have 50 orgasms. And they don’t do it because they want you to be in a constant state of euphoria. They do it because they want to be able to say “I gave her _____ orgasms in one session.”
So. Many. Problems.
Reblogging for TRUTH.
As someone who is able to have multiple orgasms, I can tell you that I’ve most definitely had dudes strive to give me as many orgasms as possible SOLELY for their own egos and not because they actually give a shit about my pleasure.
Newsflash: I’m not cumming for your sake.
I love how men think they’ve never had a partner who faked an orgasm. There is a really good chance a woman faked an orgasm for you. I don’t tolerate that shit though. I told one guy to fucking move because he couldn’t make me cum and I just gave myself an orgasm. I killed his ego that night.
Whoah, holy shit. You mean men LIKE TO FEEL SEXUALLY ADEQUATE? SCUMBAGS!
If they are sexually inadequate, why should they be told that they aren’t?
If someone is giving you a massage, but there isn’t enough pressure, should you lay there and feel nothing for 30 minutes or should you instruct them to put in a little elbow grease? Is politeness worth leaving with a stiff neck and wasted time?
Especially when it’s almost always the woman who leaves without getting her end of the bargain?
Men have every right to feel sexually adequate when they are being sexually adequate. There’s nothing wrong with throwin’ out a little thanks for an orgasm. But when a guy refuses to learn because he thinks it’s as simple as bumpin’ hips, well then, why should he get a pat on the back if he’s not even trying?
Ugh, yes, this post is amazing. My ex would get all upset with me whenever I brought up the fact that, after having sex for nearly two years, he never once made me orgasm. Even after all that time, though, he was unwilling to educate himself on how he could help me achieve what he got to experience every time we had sex. The only reason that he “cared” about me never being brought to orgasm was because it damaged his ego. The fact of the matter is that he was a selfish and lazy lover.
So my ex-boyfriend and the girl he cheated with are now officially dating.
I don’t know why people expect me to not care. We dated for three goddamn years.
I hope that they’re so happy together. The two sluts deserve each other! (For the record, you can have all the sex in the world and I won’t think you’re a slut. You’re only a slut if you get involved with somebody that’s taken.) It makes me wonder how they will last and who will cheat on who first!
Honestly though, she was already giving him what he wanted without the commitment. He probably only started up a relationship with her because I have a boyfriend. I guess he feels the need to catch up.
Oh, and I hope she doesn’t have high expectations. He won’t be able to satisfy her needs, if you know what I mean. ;)
Why the friendzone is bullshit and self-proclaimed “nice guys” are misogynists
Wow, accidentally deleted my original post. Reblogging so I can keep it in my archives.
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As defined by urban dictionary, the friendzone is…
“When you are expected to support a girl you really like while she searches for a smarter, richer, and more handsome boyfriend. There is little you can do without feeling like a dick. All in all, one of the meanest things a girl can do, whether they mean it or not.”
and ”The perennial location of nice guys everywhere.”
Although this hypothetical situation could work both ways, friendzone is almost always applied to a man who is rejected by a woman. Therefore, there is something inherently unequal, something inherently sexist about the term “friendzone”. But what and why?
From my experience, this is what friend zone is. A “nice guy” pursues a woman, but isn’t forward with his intentions from the get-go like, say, a “jerk”. The woman is pleased to see a man who is interested in her not as a sexual object but as a human being and wishes for things to stay that way. The man is not satisfied with seeing the woman as a human being because being “expected to support a girl” is a bad deal if she’s not putting out.
Before I delve into the sociological aspects of this, I just want to point out that ”friendzone” is no more pleasant for a woman than it is a man. First, that is to say unrequited love works both ways, but the person who doesn’t return affections is considered mean only when she’s a woman. And second, what option does the woman have in a traditional “friendzone” situation? Just stop talking to a close friend to avoid “leading him on”? In high school, I found out my best friend of 2 years liked me. Having to tell him I didn’t feel the same way and being immediately ex-communicated via Facebook status (“Thanks for wasting my time”) was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. Were our two years of friendship invalid because I didn’t want anything more? Was all our time together really wasted because there was no hypothetical pay off?
Guys who do this and claim to be “nice guys” are the worst misogynists because of their sense of entitlement toward a woman. They make investments in property and expect their dividends. They are fake friends. They are selfish. And they will jump at the chance to vilify you and victimize themselves when their attempts at manipulation don’t work. Clearly, “friendzone” is the remnant of a phenomenon that has plagued women since the beginning of time: women are not independent creatures. Our love lives exist only in the context of a man’s desire. When we make independent decisions, we are subject to a host of derogatory terms. “Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.
My mom is “worried” about me because I don’t eat like a regular human being- example being I had waffles and two brownies today. I thought she’d understand by now that I don’t like food lol.
Okay, so anyway, I have a new boyfriend. And I’m really, really, really anxious about it because the beginning of a relationship is challenging for me. I haven’t embarked on a new relationship in nearly three years, but I still remember how I felt when I started dating my ex. I was scared about all the pressure and the complications that came along with being in a relationship and I had no idea how to act so I lashed out at him for the first few months.
I think what I’m afraid of the most is my boyfriend turning out to be clingy. I was only single for two months, and I still want to take this slow because I’m not going to lie- I kind of did rush into this. And right now I can’t seem to shake off this anxiety, which is really frustrating for me. I want to be able to enjoy this.
I hope it passes more quickly than the last time. I hope I can adjust to this.
I get thrown into a mental hospital because people I know in real life went to my school about my cutting and suicide plan. I get out and find out that my ex cheated on me while we were together. In the following week or two, he freaks out on me and talks to me like I’m the dirt beneath his feet just because I won’t believe he didn’t cheat on me. Then the girl he cheated with admits to it, only it’s too late. My ex is so mad at me that he starts trashing me on Facebook. For some reason, other people agree with him, and it even goes as far that people who I thought were my friends start cyber-bullying me and threatening me. I reported them to the principal and police, but even today the harassment continues.
I honestly do not understand people. I am so done with everybody.
